This is a response to a post I saw that was made on FB.

“What does the post actually say? Read the exact words slowly.

Because I did and I take them seriously.

It’s no different than when conservatives talk about black people. It’s exactly the same.

Toxic masculinity.
Criminal culture.
Black on black crime.
Terrorist men.
Unfit mothers.
Welfare queens.

Privation and composition fallacies run amuck.

But it’s deeper than that. It’s an ideology of the Other.

I see the way you talk about conservatives when they talk about police. I’ve also seen you make comments about black men on Chester’s posts that have blown me away. I’m pretty sure you said you were glad your sister is a lesbian because she wouldn’t have to deal with (those) men or something like that.

How are these consistent? Why are they treated as such?

It’s all the same shit. As always some subset of people is used to determine the fitness of the whole and then, only when pressed, is there anything like a walk back.

No one seems to put this shit together. No one.

It’s amazing to me that I never see the definitions of masculinity by feminist that are anything positive or definitions of black culture that are positive by the most strident conservatives. Well, it use to amaze me but not anymore. Why? Because the terms are redundant and the adjectives only conceal the true connotations anyway. It’s a wink to the crowd.

I reject that bullshit in all forms.

But of course, that’s rarely done because these are really conversation regarding the Powerful and Powerless, the privileged and the oppressed. It’s checkers or connect four, not an actual conversation, where identifying is the end goal and lining up the privilege stack or taking the pieces of the Other by means of labels wins the game.
What are the Others to do? Fight with logic? Sure. Be better people? Of course. But those things don’t work on the Internet. What must you do? Conform and agree or deflect or reject or a combination of those things.

Deflect to race and whiteness.
Deflect to poverty and wealth.
Deflect to heterosexuality and homosexuality.
Deflect to culture.
Explain, nod and agree and run away.

All of these things are a collection of the individuals that practice them. You can’t criticize the Other without criticizing what makes up the collection. You can’t criticize the rich without criticizing Oprah. You can’t say all men are garbage without applying term to your father and brothers, or husband and friends. You can’t say women ain’t shit without insulting your mother, sisters or wife and friends.

I do wonder about the people that accept these criticisms wholesale, all the time charging themselves. It’s the truest definition of self hate.

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Women being killed is tragic and I make no apologies for murderers. I also don’t make privation fallacies of my own. I do however suspect that you don’t know or care about the thousands of people who are killed who aren’t women just like conservatives don’t actually care about the black people being killed by other black people. It’s a different kind of other. Something separate, a stat that may have some personal significance when examined and personalized but outside of individual impact it’s just facts, like the price of corn per bushel or the gdp of individual states or the crime rate in an area where you don’t live.

It’s jockeying for the position of standing in front of the bully pulpit and it annoys the fuck out of me.

What’s worse is that people allow that shit to go by unnoticed. Perhaps I’m taking social media posts too seriously but these are words and opinions on reality that have to form something like an ideology and I do take that seriously.

It’s obvious to me but it seems invisible to people.”